Sunday, March 8, 2015

You Get Pink and You Get Blue.

     Even before a child is born, there are certain requirements already placed upon him or her, relating instinctively to his or her gender. Once a girl is born, she is paraded with pink, Barbie dolls, all other peace-promoting toys, growing older to take on a rather typical external appearance of long hair and tighter fit clothing for the most part, leading a job (if any) in a field where she is expected to work. To put it more clearly, a girl is rarely seen in construction sites on the streets, not because she is incapable of doing so, but because the idea seems so absurd that she does not even allow it to come to mind. As a boy is born, however, he is surrounded with darker shades of blue, monster trucks, a few building blocks here and there, and God forbid a doll ever cross his hands. As he grows older, he takes on the appearance of short hair (usually), loose-fitting appropriate clothing, and the job of some sort not atypical to the average male, i.e. possibly one expressing the immense influence the toys he played with at a young age (monster truck and building blocks and not Barbies) made on him: a job "not fit" for a woman.
     Yet one day a harmless bystander is standing on the corner of a street, seen observing a construction worker whose back is turned to the individual, shouting out orders to those the worker is seemingly managing. The bystander takes a moment to observe the back of the worker: short hair, a blue plaid shirt, baggy jeans with a few unintentional tears and paint marks. As the worker goes further out of sight and begins to hammer nails into the plank of a building, the curious individual ends his examination, noticing nothing out of the ordinary. It is a mere few minutes later when the construction worker reappears, this time in a form where his face is visible. The bystander glances up. The worker is a women.
     Evidently, it is possible for an individual in society, surrounded from day one with "gender roles" and expectations, to turn out opposite of what he or she is "supposed to be". Yet it is not often when the "construction worker", the "plumber", the "scientist", or even the "doctor" is a women. And it is not often when the "designer", the "hairdresser", the "painter", the "cleaner" is a man. It is true that what society expects unconsciously plays a roll on individuals, as they are born into what is proposed as "correct" from day one, mindlessly adapting and conforming. There are select individuals who, at an age where they gain a more substantial ability to think for themselves, manage to question such expectations and conformity, specifically related to gender roles in this case. A girl may never aspire to be a construction worker from a young age, only because she does not consider it as a task she is able to undertake or associate with. A boy will rarely be seen with a passion for designing clothing, because he is "not allowed" to partake in "girls' jobs". Yet when attaining awareness of such preconceived expectations and being able to fully consider the possibilities of life independent of gender, there are those few individuals who are "the women construction worker".
     That is the case on a specific scale. Gender roles have the ability to affect an individual until he or she gains awareness of such expectations. However on a larger scale, the concept of gender roles has, almost unconsciously, cemented a loose interpretation of who the women and who the man should be. This, although able to be broken but very rarely done, can be perceived as somewhat of a relation to the nature of man and the nature of woman, and is, therefore, a natural part of society. It may be inborn, that a woman, in a general aspect, conveys a certain "softness", of which the subtle opposite is seen in men. Yet the extent to which societal expectations have altered and exaggerated such natural concepts is where the issue lies, and where the confusion often starts to arise, once a boy feels a slight affinity towards the color pink.

13 comments:

  1. Mariam you have written such an outstanding post. I loved the way you described how when baby boys are born and they are expected to wear blue and they cannot be seen with a doll. When baby girls are born they are expected to wear pink and play with dolls. The example that you gave with the construction site and how a women was working was such an amazing example. Wonderful job Mariam. Keep on Writing!!

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  2. Wonderful post Mariam! You captured my attention from the thought provoking title. Your analogies were perfectly understandable and on point. I loved the example of the woman construction worker! This post gave light to the issue of gender roles and I really enjoyed that you mentioned they come from before a child is even born. Overall, it was a well thought out post.

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  3. Mariam, I love how deeply you analyze and describe your thoughts on this issue. It is evident that you take the time to fully expand on the topic and find the right words and ideas to describe it. I admire how you are not afraid to write well over the required length for your posts, when most people barely reach the minimum.

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  4. I extremely enjoyed your examples that you laid out on the reader Mariam. You distinguished a valid and reasonable argument towards this whole stereotype towards gender roles. It magnificently intrigued me when you brought up the construction worked who turned out to be a woman. Whoever reads this will definitely be enlightened.
    P.S. Davit should read this.

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    1. P.S. I did, and P.S. I still have not changed my opinion.

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  5. The several examples that were provided summed up what society believes of what a man and woman should be. I found it wise that you mentioned the fact that newborn children are immediately affected with the type of toys they play with. I liked the fact that you mentioned what each gender is supposed to look like and did not talk only talk about their stereotypical role in society.

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  6. Mariam, what I love about your writing is how creative it is. You go to every small detail of a topic, which is something no other person does or can do. Plus, I commend you for going over the minimum 250-word limit in order to fully get your point across. Although I did not change my opinion, your post did an amazingly well job in showing me another side to this gender roles argument. Job well done.

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  7. Mariam (why am I contributing to the trend of starting blog comments with the name of the blogger as if I have something grave to share with said blogger?), your writings are often wordy beyond necessity. However, this gives them a certain buoyancy and joins the lucky array of writings that are blessed enough to be uttered by yours truly. Is the bystander really harmless though?

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  8. Mariam you transcending your limit of providing detail! This is the longest blog post I have ever read! But it was also one of the best blog posts I have ever read! I truly enjoyed it! As I always tell you, keep on writing because your mind is full of creativity!

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  9. Mariam this is an amazing blog post. This was a very interesting blog post. You explicitly explained the gender roles in society in such an interesting way. Also the examples you used were very effective in explaining your reasons.

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  10. Reading your post I was completely compelled by each word you typed. It is amazing how you can analyze each step of a person's life and the way a simple thing can define them. The details you used were absolutely stunning. I too believe that society has set certain standards for women and men, but they have done so unintentionally. I just hope we can stray away from those standards and demands.

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  11. Mariam, your writing skills never fail to impress me. You are able to captivate the reader by even the title of the blog post! You succeeded greatly at analyzing and summarizing your ideas of gender roles and the impact society plays on them. Wonderful work ! Keep it up (:

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